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Tuesday, February 05, 2013

Bowties, Bunnytails, and Belly Buttons

(On Dressing Smartly and Appropriately)
by aLfie vera mella

Maingat ka bang manamit? Ibinabagay mo ba sa iyong pupuntahan ang iyong kasuotan?

While I know and I believe that a rapist, a serial murderer-cum-rapist, a pedophile, or any sexual predator ultimately chooses any victim—beautiful or not, naked or clad—still, there are also so-called stimuli and triggers.

While a woman or even a man, for that matter, has the freedom to wear whatever s/he chooses as long as it is something legal in the particular community or place she is going, she has to consider the circumstances. In short, it's not only about freedom dressing; it should be also about smart and conscious dressing (even appropriate dressing).

For example, if you are going to a party and you decide to wear very skimpy attire, then make sure that you go there by car or any personal vehicle—not by tricycle, jeepney, bus, nor even taxicab.

If you are going out and know that your destination is a very public and densely populated place, then dress down, because surely you will be walking amidst people from various walks of life and you will never know if there would be some evil men who could not control their lust and might express it on you.

If you are going out and know that you will be going back home late at night, alone, and the route that you will be taking will be dark and not much peopled, then dress inconspicuously and unattractively.

Of course, there will remain an iota of possibility that you might still encounter a predator who really doesn't care about what you wear but is only in the heated mood to pounce on anyone, but at least you minimize the element of attraction. This is also similar to a defense mechanism called camouflaging or blending in. If you stick out in a crowd or do not blend quietly with the current environment, you are easily seen or exposed too much. So, there is still validity in the idea of dressing appropriately.

Nonetheless, if you are attending a naked party or going to a nudist beach resort, then—for beauty's sake!—don't wear anything—not even a bowtie nor a bunnytail!

Ultimately, everything boils down to the ability to defend oneself and to stand up with what you are wearing. You have the freedom to look your best, sexiest, most attractive, most beautiful, most alluring, or even most head-turning physical appearance but only when the destination and the route are favorable.

But if you are really bold and brave enough, then go ahead, wear your most attractive clothes and appear in your most attractive self the next time you will be coming home or going out walking alone in a very dark and isolated area. Just make sure you're mindful of your surroundings, extra careful, able to defend yourself, and know what to do when someone begins to mistreat you.

Sa Madaling Salita
Bawat babae ay may karapatang maging maganda at kaakit-akit, subalit kailangan din naman nilang maging ligtas at alerto sa delikadong pagkakataon.

Or, in Simple Words
All women deserve to be beautiful and attractive, but women deserve also to be safe in dangerous circumstances.


  • At Wednesday, February 06, 2013 7:56:00 PM, Anonymous rainbow said…

    I love the fact that in Canada we get dressed well, it is the four season that makes us more fashionista and never run out of style.

    I observed the transition every quarter of the year and made me think that no sense of fashion was a big deal here.

    It's every glorious summertime here that i am able to see gorgeous women in their short shorts and super tubes tops in deep flashing colors of all shapes and styles.

    I am loving the fashion sense of different cultures and nationalities. Women with dark complexion are actually more daring, They dont care how short is shorts actually ..

    The truth is my ambition in life to become a fashion designer is a bit frustration.I started the calling and even wrote beautiful sketches,shapes, colors,lines,
    symmetry of patterns that can be found at the back pages of my notebooks as proof of my being creative. Its only now that i really realized my passion in arts and fashion and what if i never let go of this dream in the first place...

  • At Monday, February 11, 2013 2:01:00 PM, Blogger eLf ideas said…

    That is one good reason I love living in Canada. There is freedom in style. I could go to work at the hospital without worrying that a supervisor tells me that I need to cut my longhair already because, in the first place, this has nothing to do or this does not affect my job performance.

    Of course, there will remain some degrees of conformity, but much of this conformity is tolerable.


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